revelations

25.10.10

bring a whole person to the marriage. 

"'you complete me' is romantic only in the movies. long-married couples are made up of two whole people who each have a strong sense of self and an equally strong interest in each other. they each have their own friends, interests, hobbies, and intellectual pursuits. they don’t see themselves as halves of a whole but rather as two wholes who enrich each other. they are rarely bored because they are always learning interesting things from each other."

and when you can bring a whole fulfilled person, you will demand less from the other. making it easier to fall hopelessly in love. 

you will not be afraid to give of yourself completely, because you have plenty to give. 

you will not be afraid to lose yourself in becoming one, because you have your own foundations to build on. you will not expect them share their life with you, because you will have your own.

and two complete lives put together results in the most beautiful picture. not just two halves of one picture, but two whole pictures combined to make the 

richest, deepest, brightest image possible. 

ALSO. not everyone needs soulmates, but we need something close. because we crave a depth that will not be easily satisfied. but guess what? that's okay.

because we are willing to wait. 

for the real thing. we are willing to wait for years because we are babies. we are willing to wait because when we find the one we've waited for, it will be worth it. because we are not willing to settle for anything less. and we have an eternity of time in front of us. to live and feel and grow and mature and become.

that whole person. 

and while we're becoming, we can still live. life does not start when we are wed. now, we can love. we can romp. we don't have to save love and existence just for that one person. we can and should bumble across life. because guess what? it won't be ruined. it will only be enriched. by living and loving fully every minute we are given.